” – I found it a very touching article and the sad ending was not due to a girl scamming her foreign boyfriend but due to cultural misunderstandings and different expectations.
I think many people can relate to his story, whether it is about an Asian women or any other cross-cultural love.
Whereas the anonymous author wrote a very touching article, was completely the opposite – cold, heartless, a bit appalling.
In his eyes finding a “decent” Vietnamese woman is the same process as finding a decent car: Preferably not a second hand (no divorced woman, no single mothers, no girls who have had foreign boyfriends before; should have a high market value – a well-sought after commodity), not too old (preferably the girls should below the age of 24, regardless of how old you are), should not have any scratches or defects (no tattoos; no kids; not too many ex-boyfriends; non-smoker; non-drinker; should not visit the bars), preferable from a good brand (the poorer she is, the better), it should not cost too much for maintenance (Johnson advises us to give a maximum of 0 US dollar a month to the girl to be your girlfriend) and you should have it thoroughly checked before you are using it (the girls should have had a blood test regardless of how many sex partners you have had).
While the marriage market for other Asians (Chinese, Singaporeans and Koreans) in Vietnam is certainly booming (as can be seen here: I am however afraid that the more “Johnson’s” come to Vietnam, the more the Vietnamese bride and prostitution market will cater to western foreigners, bringing all the nasty stuff which Thailand and the Philippines is suffering from at the moment.Vietnam is, for SEA expats, still a good alternative dating option.Vietnamese people generally care more about traditions and family values than capital accumulation and materialism.It is easy to date Vietnamese women, but it is hard to get approval from the family – which is a good thing in my eyes.You have to work for it – it is not all given to you.Finding a good woman in Vietnam should be like finding a good woman anywhere else in the world.The only impediment however, and that is what Johnson has observed rightly, is the power-aspect.In a country where people average ,400 earnings a year per capita, it will be almost impossible to find a girl in the same socio-economic class as you – which in my eyes is most preferable when finding a suitable girl.The power-aspect can therefore not be avoided, but that does not mean that a relationship with a Vietnamese woman is doomed to be unsuccessful it is just another challenge to overcome.How to find a good girl or woman entirely depends on your own age, socio-economic class, intelligence, culture, religion, expectations, knowledge of local language and culture and of course, most importantly, your own characteristics and background.There is no guide-book on how to find your perfect Vietnamese girl, especially if it is written by a western male. I have made a mental guide for myself on who and where to find a suitable girlfriend, but it will be no use for you if you are the opposite of me – middle-aged, divorced, having a considerable big salary and position and not knowing Vietnamese – and besides that I am constantly updating my own mental guide, I’m still in the learning process.