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These days it's becoming more and more common for someone to enter a relationship with children from a previous marriage.
But how do you deal with this situation when you don't have any children of your own?
Dating someone who has a child from a previous marriage introduces many complicated issues.
Get your relationship off to a good start by considering these common scenarios. Is it OK to meet him now or should I wait until I have a better feel for the potential of this relationship before making introductions? Most experts agree that you should wait until your relationship shows signs of becoming serious before making introductions.
Children (especially young children) quickly can become attached to someone new and, consequently, may be confused or hurt if the relationship ends.
If your date wants you to meet her son right away, suggest that she introduce you as a friend.
Once your relationship becomes somewhat serious, try to get to know her son gradually, without attempting to rush or force the relationship or stepping in as a parental figure.
Plan an outing that is fun and that requires minimal interaction.
Go ice skating, take a day hike, visit the zoo or attend a sporting event.
Activities such as those offer low-pressure ways of becoming acquainted with each other.
Ask the child for help planning-requesting his opinion can help get the relationship off to a good start.